School of Social and Political Science

Building Confidence & Being Assertive


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Building Confidence & Being Assertive Top Tips


Confidence is important in relationships with others – it builds faith, projects success, and is viewed as an attractive trait

  • Confidence is not something we are born with – it is acquired and grown or diminished over time based on biological factors and early life experiences/development
  • Loss of confidence or low confidence is typically a result of the following either individually or in combination with each other:
    • Social Media Living
    • Negative thinking styles
    • Perfectionism
    • Poor agency
    • Low Self-Esteem
    • Imposter Syndrome
    • Poor Outcomes to major life events (academic progression, secure attachment)

Build your confidence:

  • Do more – more activities of ANY kind completed = better mindset
  • Set realistic expectations
  • Surround yourself with supportive people
  • Challenge/reframe negative thinking
  • Practice and accept failure as a natural part of learning/growing
  • Use compassionate self-talk
  • Get to know yourself and your values

Assertiveness is a skill that relies on confidence, self-esteem, and communication styles and creates the boundaries we set for others and ourselves.

  • Passive, passive-aggressive, and aggressive communication styles won’t get the results we need while maintaining important relationships.
  • Assertive communication means engaging in active listening while clearly stating what your needs are. Others can’t be defensive if they aren’t the subject of the conversation.

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